Self-Compassion
The COVID-19 pandemic has been a tremendous source of pain and struggle. Unfortunately, people can become self-critical when they notice their own struggles or fail to meet expectations of themselves that they would rarely or never demand of others.
Self-compassion is the intentional fostering of an attitude of kindness toward ourselves when we are struggling or in pain. It encourages us to acknowledge these feelings and ask, "How can I comfort and care for myself in this moment?"
Three Elements of Self-Compassion
Self-Kindness vs. elf-Judgement
Accepting difficulties as a part of life with sympathy and kindness, leading to greater emotional calmness
Common Humanity vs. Isolation
Recognizing that all humans are imperfect, and struggle reminds us of our connection, rather than feeling isolated with problems that happen to "me alone"
Mindfulness vs. Over-Identification
Balancing awareness of our struggles and that of others, while not getting caught up in and attached to negativity
Take care of the caregiver!
Working in a caregiving profession (and being a caregiver of a family member) means you need to take time to recharge your batteries to be able to give to others and enjoy your own life. Listening to music, taking an exercise class, hanging out with friends, or getting a massage are good examples of self-care.
At work, when you are feeling stressed, soothing self-talk, calming touch, or taking a self-compassion break will allow you to be there for yourself and be present to meet the needs of others.
Exercises and Guided Meditations
Self-Compassion Exercises by Dr. Kristin Neff
Self-Compassion Scale for Clinical Purposes
Self-Compassion Scales | Kristin Neff
